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There are really only two ways to approach life - as victim or as gallant fighter - and you must decide if you want to act or react, deal your own cards or play with a stacked deck. And if you don't decide which way to play with life, it always plays with you.

Inspirational Life Play

Loving can cost a lot but not loving always cost more.

Fear Inspirational Unrequited Love

The answer doesn't lie in learning how to protect ourselves from life-it lies in learning how to become strong enough to let a bit more of it in.

Life Lying Strong

The job of a friend is not to decide what should be done, not to run interference or pick up the slack. The job of a friend is to understand, and to supply energy and hope, and in doing so to keep those they value on their feet a little longer, so that they can fight another round and grow strong in themselves.

Friends Running Strong

Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.

Fear Heart Love

One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you, and while nothing in your life is reversible, you can reverse it nevertheless.

Life Is Never Change Past

If there are no endings, there are no beginnings and you see no new lands, so for everything that's lost, there is usually something gained.

Beginnings And Endings Land Lost

Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same

Different Loving Someone Mean

I'm not sure there can be loving without commitment, although commitment takes all kinds of forms, and there can be commitment for the moment as well as commitment for all time. The kind that is essential for loving marriages - and love affairs, as well - is a commitment to preserving the essential quality of your partner's soul, adding to them as a person rather than taking away.

Commitment Marriage Soul

The people in your life are like the pillars on your porch.
Sometimes they hold you up, and sometimes they lean on you.
Sometimes it's enough to know they are standing by.

People Pillars Sometimes

One often learns more from ten days of agony than from ten years of contentment.

Adversity Cancer Learning

The conflict between what one is and who one is expected to be touches all of us. And sometimes, rather than reach for what one could be, we choose the comfort of the failed role, preferring to be the victim of circumstance, the person who didn't have a chance.

Chance Comfort Roles

Anger is a passion, so it makes people feel alive and makes them feel they matter and are in charge of their lives. So people often need to renew their anger a long time after the cause of it has died, because it is a protection against helplessness and emptiness just like howling in the night. And it makes them feel less vulnerable for a little while.

Anger Night Passion

The romantic myth is so strong that it survives the wear and tear of marriage by simply detaching from it and floating up on ahead, and women who are rather fond of the men they married, as well as ones who are not, go through life with a bag packed for the day when the shining knight on a white charger arrives, just in case he does.

Men Strong White

Our strength is in our dreams, and those who do not dare to dream damn themselves.

Destiny Dream Strong

Friends are like windows through which you see out into the world and back into yourself. If you don't have friends you see much less than you otherwise might.

Friendship Might World

Sex deepens love and love deepens sex, so physical intimacy transforms everything and playing with it is playing with fire.

Deep Love Fire Sex

Life is like fording a river, stepping from one slippery stone to another, and you must rejoice every time you don't lose your balance, and learn to laugh at all the times you do.

Balance Laughing Rivers

The day you spend hoping, the day you spend waiting, the day you spend in despair, is a day in your life as much as the tomorrow you hope for, but which may never come, so betting today on tomorrow is always a bad bet.

Despair Live In The Moment Waiting

Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you are intended to be.

Helping People Persons